About Barbara Anne Hough

This began on March 8, 2011.

It chronicles Mom’s journey of almost three years.  Thank you SO MUCH for all your thoughts, prayers, cards, flowers and visits, beginning with her February 22, 2011, admission to Howard County General through her years at Lorien until she left this earth for heaven on February 17, 2014.  She is now with the good Lord, and reunited with many family and friends who went before her. Regular blog entries ended on March 8, 2014, but periodic updates on news about the family will continue.

Mom would like that.


Today was just lovely.  Following a spa day for me and golf day for Scott yesterday, we went to church last night and began preparations this morning to have Wayne and Randy over for lunch after THEIR picture taking day yesterday on the Eastern Shore.  How do you get the eagle to DO this anyway?  Randy flew in for a quick 48 hour visit so was happy to get time with him and have him bring Wayne over for lunch.  I suspect everyone is full after a cauliflower and pear soup, grilled salmon, roasted broccoli, homemade applesauce, and spaghetti squash with tomatoes/pesto sauce.   Scott and I are headed to Greece, the Greek Isles and Turkey soon, so look for more pictures shortly.  Happy fall!

2015-09-27 Eagle2015-09-27 Wayne and Randy2015-09-27 Lunch

Boy, today was hard.  Facebook sent me a memory from two years ago.  See below on the left.   I shared it on Facebook…and I can’t stop staring at it.  I haven’t seen this wonderful face for almost 19 months now.  I saw so much of Mom during her final three years.  Makes me wonder if I did enough to see her before she was sick.  Life was always so busy.  That face wasn’t the face I grew up seeing.  It was the face I cared for…and did my best for as daughter, caregiver and medical system advocate.   My memories had shifted since February 17, 2014, to the face in the second picture.  Sometimes even to the third picture with me.    2013 (Lorien), 2009 (Mom’s 79th) and 1987 (Randy and Hope’s wedding).  They are all Mom.  And whichever one I could have back, I’d take it in a heartbeat.

Mom on her 79th birthdayMom and Laura 1

Don’t you wonder how it can be that “just the other weekend” was Memorial Day weekend?  It seems to happen with increasing speed…that quick whirlwind to Fourth of July weekend…and then onto Labor Day in the blink of an eye.  In Maryland, all seasons are distinct and pretty incredible.  But it’s the speed that is turning my head!   And yet the focus must be on making the most of every moment.  I hope you are doing just that!

I stopped by the Hardy Road house after work yesterday to drop off some beef burgundy for Wayne, and pick up some end of season tomatoes and my copy of the poetry book that Wayne published honoring Mom.  It’s entitled “Forever and A Million Years” since that is what they used to say to each other.  A very special book indeed.Forever and A Million YearsSince I don’t have a grave site to visit, I decided to put it with Mom’s doll from 1939 and my keepsake urn of her ashes.  As you can see, I’ve added my favorite doll as a little girl to the collection.  I didn’t want Mom’s doll to get lonely.  :-)

After visiting Wayne, I went to a Yoga Nidra class.  My second one.  It’s a yogic sleep class.  Incredible.  You are convinced it’s only been 10 minutes when it’s actually been an hour.  Amazingly refreshing and no one is allowed to snore!   Today involves shopping and cooking for a small dinner party tonight, and then church tomorrow followed by a girls’ lunch with Nina, and her cousin/maid of honor Jessica.  Andy is out of town for work now and won’t be home until early October.  On Monday, Scott and I will do something I’ve never done and always wanted to do.  Go to Luray Caverns.   Making the most of every moment!   Are you?   Love, Laura

EIGHTEEN months.  A year and a half.   Wow.  I can hardly believe it in some ways, and yet in others when I contemplate life events such as Randy’s move to Tampa, Scott leaving Total Wine and More, and Andy and Nina’s wedding – I realize that life is moving on.  I have to trust the new testament’s teaching in which the dead brother looked back and saw the behavior of his living brother and prayed for someone to witness to him.  It means that Mom CAN see us and IS aware of these life events; it’s just that our direct communication is currently not working!

Yesterday, Scott and I had lunch with Wayne and he showed us the “dummy” of his poetry tribute book to Mom.  It’s called “Forever and A Million Years”.  If you’d like a copy, send me an e-mail to lviehmyer@gmail.com.  It goes into production this week.  Later in the day, I met with Dawn Merrill (Mom’s chief nurse) and Tyrone Snowden (Mom’s respiratory therapist/singer) who sang at her memorial service.  It is wonderful to stay in touch with these special people.

Everything is generally pretty good in our world.  Andy is away for work for a while.  Nina starts graduate school in 2 weeks.  Scott’s golf game is excellent and I am not traveling.  I start teaching again on September 3.  Hope you are enjoying your summer!

Love, Laura


Happy 85th birthday to Mom!  As I said on FB, I wonder if she got to start counting birthdays over when she got to heaven, so she’d be two today.

Scott and I met Wayne, Samantha and Justin for lunch earlier at the Double T in Ellicott City.  One of Mom’s favorite places.  We had a nice time together catching up.   Wayne is publishing a book of his poems in memory of Mom.  It’s called “Forever and a Million Years” because that’s how long they used to say they would love each other.  We all look forward to receiving our copy of the book.  Scott helped Wayne edit it along the way.

Tonight, Andy and Nina will join us for dinner and I’ll make lots of Mom’s favorite foods.  It’s a day Mom celebrated for weeks, so it seems fitting to celebrate her day.  Andy leaves for work travel in a week and a half and will be gone for a couple of months.  Nina starts graduate school at the end of the month.  Master’s degree in School Counseling at Johns Hopkins University.  She’s just finished three years as a Montessori teacher and was ready to go back to school.

Randy is in Hawaii (on Oahu) taking lots of pictures!  It’s his first trip and he has been so excited waiting for his departure to come – which was last Friday.  He’ll head to Maryland for a visit in late October.

My request for today?  Enjoy one of Mom’s favorite foods!  Omelette, crispy bacon, filet mignon, crab cake, cheeseburger, bagel bites, grilled cheese sandwich, dove candies…or chocolate anything – and think of Mom.  She’d like that.  Here is a picture of her on her 79th birthday – when I got her signed up on Facebook!    Love, Laura

Mom on her 79th birthday

Sharing selected pictures from Andy and Nina’s honeymoon.  Oahu and the Big Island.  June 23 – July 6, 2015.  Pure happiness.  The last picture is Laika’s dog house, which Andy built for their mini-backyard.  Laika is their puppy-to-be arriving in early October.  It’ll be interesting to see how much Laika USES her little house.  Ha ha!




Sometimes a picture  (or several) are worth a 1,000 words.

Presenting the celebration of Andy and Nina’s wonderful rehearsal dinner (June 19) and wedding (June 20)!

P.S. It took me three days to make, decorate, transport and assemble the wedding cake.  Cloud NINE signing off today.  MUCH LOVE, Laura

Andy and Nina ComusAndy Nina and NIna's ParentsAndy Nina Laura and JimBaby steals the showKara and LauraCandid HamsNina and Haven at the windowThe  Bride and BridesmaidsThe GroomsmenScott and his kidswedding cake

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  • lviehmyer: Thanks, Denise and Anne! It was a lovely lunch and great time together. I enjoy cooking and making up dishes. Spend a lot of time watching the food
  • Anne Seawell: You are some cook! Have a wonderful trip. I appreciated the poetry book from Wayne and wrote him thanking him, but thank you also for giving him m
  • Denise Sigler: Thanks for the update. The guys look great! Have a fabulous trip!



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